Do you know what a 'Weight Set Point Is?'

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Do you know what a set point is?  It is a figure that your subconscious has created from your experiences and it refers to weight and money.  These two set points work in different ways though.  the money one wont let you earn more and the weight one wont let you weight loss - so they work the other way around but are basically stopping you doing what you want!

When I was in software contracting I earned a lot of money.  But when I looked over my accounts and compared the years, I virtually earned the same amount - despite time off in between contracts and different rates.  Why is this?  Because my subconscious decided that I wasnt allowed/deserved/ safe (or any other reason) to earn more than I did.  So it adjusted my situation so that the figure would be the same - yes your subconscious really is that powerful!  So I had to release my trauma, change my beliefs and then my money set point rose.  So even now if I suspect that my subconscious is trying to stop me earning more, I take a step back and look at what has come up.  Remember everything is in layers so although you think you may have cleared a certain belief or trauma another aspect may be displaying itself for healing.

So your subconscious will definately have a set point for your weight.  This again is based on trauma, beliefs, patterns and blocks.  This will also explain why you can't lose weight or if you lose weight you will put it back on virtually immediately.  The press is full of articles saying that people who have lost a lot of weight will put it back on because they go back to their old eating ways.  That is not true - if you have lost a lot of weight there is no way you would put it all back in three months.  You may put back a few pounds but not everything.  This is because your subconscious realises that you are below your set point and will pull out all the stops to putting the weight back on - and it seems like you have no control over it and seem to be sleep walking through the entire time!  I know this because it has happened to me many times.

Also you may have worked on your set point but a trigger like sexual attention may send your subconscious into meltdown and it will reinstate the old set point virtually immediately - this has recently happened to a client of mine.

So can it be changed?  Yes of course it can!  Firstly you need to meditate and ask your subconscious what your set point is.  If you get no response imagine what it would be. 

1. Look and heal traumas that have made you fearful - death, accidents, sexual abuse/rape/attention
2. Look at patterns of using your weight so you dont have to do something
3. Look at your eating patterns and see how they relate to triggers and traumas
4. Look at what happened in your life from birth to 7 and see whether you were loved and nutured or what messages you were given about food.

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is a great way of starting to release all of the above and decrease your weight set point.  It is good to work on the traumas and patterns first before you start to put in the positive.  Or book an appointment with me...........

Start tapping on "My weight set point is ....... and my subconscious is really happy at this level" - do this every day and watch if any memories, thoughts, pictures or anything else comes up and then tap on that as well.

Buy my book Unlock Your Maximum Weight Loss Potential and this will really help you - and why not do it with your money set point as well!

Why does your subconscious use weight as protection?

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So I am now fully recovered from my hip operation and feel like a million dollars!  As I was ill on holiday and had an allergic reaction to some antibiotics I have also lost some more weight and was feeling really good about myself.  So I started to wear tighter fitting clothes, makeup and jewellry and I was getting loads of compliments!!  So what happened - suddenly I went from not eating to uncontrollably eating everything in sight - horror shock horror.  I never do this and it makes me feel out of control, a pig and that I will put back all my weight.

So after a day when I realised I could do something to stop this, I did a session on myself and guess what I found?  My subconscious had gone into panic mode, didnt feel safe and was trying to pack the weight back on again!  I thought I had cleared all of this as I have been working on this for years and managed to get down to a UK size 18 which I was quite happy with - or rather my subconscious was happy with!

When I was three I was sexually abused which first lead to my weight problem.  As an adult I lost weight and was very attractive and received masses amount of attention from men.  I also had a few date rape episodes ..... I travelled a lot for work and it was so bad that you couldnt even go down for dinner.  When I was working in Mexico for two months one day I had 30 hits from men (my colleague and I compared notes every day!).  So you can see why I then put the weight back on and why my subconscious went into melt down the minute I started to get compliments.

I am still working through this as safety is a very strong survival issue and the subconscious takes some healing to release it.  But now I am hopeful that I will get down to a 16.

You see weight is very rarely to do with food but the underlying reasons why your subconscious wants to eat.  You need to heal those before the weight will stay off for good.  And even then a situation may trigger a reaction, like this had for me.  So if you think this is you, why not contact me for a session or buy my book Unlock Your Maximum Weight Loss Potential on Amazon and find out the root cause of your weight problem.

Why excess weight is nothing to do with overeating

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So do you have trouble losing weight?  I have for years - I was 12lb when I was born and have lived on a diet ever since!  It was when I visited a therapist who did 'muscle testing' and she asked my body if I wanted to lose weight and I couldn't believe it when my body replied "NO"!  I have now spent 20 years working out why I don't want to and I have lost masses of weight/water but have a couple of stone to go.  But I am now convinced that I am on the right track and I want to share my knowledge with you!

One of the main reasons that people are overweight is that they don't feel safe.  This could be because they were abused or raped or that when they were slim they received masses of unwelcome male attention which made them feel unsafe.  This is quite a difficult pattern to reverse because your subconscious's main concern is your safety.

You may feel unsafe in your area or in the world with everything that is happening.  Your subconscious may add weight to make you feel safe.  Of course this doesn't work so we have to change your subconscious's beliefs that making you fat and miserable is not protecting you from terrorism!

When you were slim before you may have got pregnant, or divorced or another trauma so your subconscious is keeping the weight on so this doesnt happen again.

For all those people who have lost a lot of weight and put it back on again we know that that is not due to what we are eating.  Having dieted, exercised and worked on our beliefs we wouldn't go back to eating and put the weight on in a couple of months!  The reason the weight goes back on again (and you seem helpless to stop it) is that your subconscious has just realised what has happened and it doesn't like it so it slaps the weight back on as quickly as possible!  Not very helpful from our point of view but it is for your subconscious.

Excess weight is more than just overeating - I starved myself for years so my subconscious filled my body with excess water which I couldnt get rid of.  It was only when I worked on myself, my fears and my beliefs that the weight started to come off!

Does your weight set point stop you losing weight - you bet it does!!

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What is your weight set point and why haven't you heard about it before?  Well the doctors dont know about it - neither do most people in the slimming world either.

Your weight set point is controlled by your subconscious and it is the weight that it feels is the right weight for you.  This is its own interpretation of what it feels is safe for you - and this most probably means that it is not the weight you want!  When I had a reading/healing session one time the guy came up with the set point and explained why I would never get beyond it as my subconscious was hanging on from grim death.  So link to your soul and your higher self and see if you can intuite what your set point is - what would it be?

Well it is essential to get your set point down to the level you want so how do you do that.  One of the ways is by using Emotional freedom technique (EFT) and this will lower your set point (and can increase your metbolism as well) - another way is to book a session with me and I will use my unique healing techniques to lower it for good once and for all!

You also have a money set point so this could explain why you can never earn/save over a point.  When I was contracting I earnt good money - however when I added up everything I learned I realised that because of gaps in between contracts I earned the same every year - which was nowhere as high as I thought!!

Does everybody have starvation mode?

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I hear this all the time from people - you have cut your calories down and you are now in starvation mode and you cant lose any weight.  Well now top doctors are saying that we should all be cutting down our calories as it is better for our body and helps resist disease.  Yes I did mess up my metabolism when I lived on 150 calories for 7 years but I did that because it was already messed up and I couldnt lose weight - especially after I gave up smoking which raises your metabolism by at least 200 calories a day.  I was also on stimulants and the weight was dropping off everybody else but not me!

So if this starvation mode exists how comes people like Kate moss and Posh Spice lose weight and stay so thin (and it is thin and unnatural for most people).  If starvation mode existed people wouldnt become annorexics would they?  Their body would stop at a weight that was healthy and they wouldnt lose any more weight.

I do believe there is a starvation mode but it is not caused by what the doctors say but from a variety of other things that I talk about in this blog all the time.  Some of these are:

1. Your subconscious does not want you to be slim for various reasons.  It is protecting you from sexual abuse, getting pregnant, too much attention from men, not wanting to step out of comfort zone, fear of failure - the list is endless!

2.  I also believe that it is to do with starving, being malnourished or dying of thirst in previous lives - and it could be more than one life.  Your body is frightened of this happening again so it holds onto the weight and the water so you dont die

I think these are the main reasons but there can be many others which I could identify if you had a session with me.  Dieting doesnt work for everybody and you need to find out what is the real cause.

Why do people always say they can cure your weight problem?

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In the past twenty years I have visited sooooooooooooo many therapists and done so many training courses to try and overcome my weight and thyroid issues.  All of them have said they can cure me and when I have mentioned seeing other people they have got a bit sniffy and put them down.  When their treatments didnt work they would then say it was all my fault and that I was overeating - which I wasnt - being overweight is nothing to do with food!

The answer is that nobody can cure you - only you!  I have just seen how a diet can change your thyroid - well it will help it but it is so much deeper than this!

1 Yes you need to know what foods to eat to help your thyroid - but it could also be that your pituitory, pineal and hypothalamus can be faultly as well.  You also need to know what to eat to help your metabolism

2. If your subconscious, karma, life plan, inner child or any other part of you doesnt want to lose weight for any reason YOU WILL NOT!!!  So you need to investigate all these parts including past lives.  Your subconscious is sooooooooooooo strong willed that it will cause organs to fail and they will not work again - whatever you do!

3. You will most probably need something like homeopathy/herbs to kick start your body as it has been dormant for so long

4. You will need to look at your emotions and beliefs.  We all have patterns, stuck emotions, blocks and judgements and all these will stop you losing weight

This is why my book WHY?WEIGHT doesnt just cover food - it includes everything including breathing!  You may need to see more than one person - or you could book an appointment with me!

Ancestral curses and how they can affect your weight in this life

Everybody on my mothers side has a weight problem.  It doesnt matter how much exercise or dieting we do we all end up the same size - if you see us in a crowd there is no mistaking us!!!  Weight problems can be genetic, but this can also be caused by ancestral curses.  Many generations ago your family could have done something and have been cursed and this curse has manifested as a serious weight problem.  I had one client whose ancestral curse manifested as miscarriages which was heartbreaking.

Your family could have stolen money, stolen land, been a land owner and treated people badly. Your family could have been involved in the slave trade in many countries or even with building the pyramids.  It doesnt have to be about food but being overweight is a form of punishing and suffering so this works nicely - and you cant do anything about it.  I managed to lose 5 stone but woke up one morning 6 stone heavier and believe me it wasnt to do with food but the fact that I was "cursed" to be fat!

As part of my business I specialise in removing ancestral curses so if you feel this may be your problem please contact me on info@unleashyourpotential.co.uk and watch the weight drop off, your ancestors healed and future generations healed - wouldnt you like to be able to heal their weight problem before they have one!!

Just a word of warning about curses - do not (even in fun or tempter) say the words "I curse you" or equivalent as the universe will activate the curse - and then the curse comes back on you 100 fold

How have you chosen to pay off your karma?

I mentioned in my previous blog that I was 12 lb when I was born which was unheard in those days.  When I was attuned to Reiki I put more and more weight on and because my subconscious new I would starve it filled me with water - which I couldnt lose - so I got heavier and heavier.  It seemed that I was cursed and nothing I did worked.  So I started to investigate this and had some amazing insights.

In this life many spiritual people have decided to pay off all their karmic debt - and one way of doing this is by having excess weight.  A lot of spiritual teachers and healers are heavily overweight not just minorly overweight. One of the ways we believe we can pay back this karma is by "punishing ourselves and making ourselves suffer".  Some people turn to alcohol, drugs or to loose everything they have.  In this day and age, with so many negative and nasty comments about obesity, it is easy to see why this is choosen for the karmic payback.  This is one of the avenues I chose and somehow because I knew I chose it it made it slightly easier. 

So I am carrying "the burdens of heavy karma" and it has taken me over 17 years to work through this (with other things that I will talk about in later blogs) but now the weight is starting to be released.  The main thing we have to do is to forgive ourselves for what we have done (or have been told or perceived we have done) and remove the guilt - this is what is holding us up.  One way is to put all the karmic debt and yourself into a circle of light and ask for total healing and forgiveness for everybody involved.  People from these lives may be attached to you and are adding to the weight and the punishment and they need to be released.  You have to understand (as they do) that everybody chose the lives they lead before they were incarnated so there is nothing to forgive or to feel guilty about - but this is hard to grasp.  So please speak to yourself or anybody else who is causing the punishment and ask what they want from you to release this and move forward.  Then ask your angels and guides to take on the task of the healing and watch your life transform!

How does Karma affect your weight?

I have been on a diet since I was born - I was 12 lb even then which for 1955 was very heavy!  What ever happened the weight never came off.  My mother was obsessed and had me on a diet and exercise plan at the age of 3!

I even spent 7 years on 150 calories a day, water tablets and slimming pills - and I wont tell you what else I did, to try and lose weight.  Most people would have died through malnutrition but I was still slowly putting on weight!

So why I started on my spiritual journey it absolutely made sense that I was paying back negative karma as being overweight made me very  unhappy.  I had chosen to be overweight as I felt that I needed to suffer and punish myself for what I had done (or perceived I had done) in past lives.  This explained why everything I did didnt work.  So I had to work very hard at forgiving myself and releasing the need to suffer and punish.  I can help you do this as I have so much experience now.

There will more on this subject later this week on how dying of starvation or thirst in past lives affects your weight more.  Also how other past lives affect your weight now

If you subconscious does not feel safe it will make you fat

Why does your subconscious want to make you fat if it doesnt feel safe?

We have seen that Dawn French and Pauline Quirk have recently lost a lot of weight, only to start putting it back on again.  People on television programmes keep going on about slowing your metabolism and going back to your old ways of eating is responsbile but I totally disagree with this.

I lost 5 stone and it was hard work and I was on a healthy eating plan for life - I still am.  There is no way that I would have put that weight back on again but one day I woke up and I was full of water and had actually put 6 stone on!  Normal people would put a stone back on and then start to cut back to lose it - believe me nothing tastes as good as the taste of being slim - and you have all those lovely new clothes and compliments.  I also found that if anybody said I had lost weight, the next morning I would wake up 2 inches bigger - which was very frustrating!

So I started to investigate the subconscious and why the weight had gone back on again.  I discovered that when the subconscious doesn't feel safe, it adds weight to protect itself.  So as my subconscious knew that I would starve until the weight came off, it filled me with water instead.

So I started to look at why people's subconsciousnesses didn't feel safe and it was fascinating!

1. If you have been sexually abused in the past, have had too much attention from men, the subconscioness adds weight to make you as unattractive as possible

2. This also is the same for mental, physical and emotional abuse as well

3. If you dont want to do something like work, exercise, or go out into the world

4. You were kept small as a child and your subconscious wants you to be big and seen now

5. You feel insignificant now and your subconscious thinks you are hiding behind the weight

6. It is a dangerous world, we are seeing people dying in real time and your subconscious is frightened

7. You feel that your identity will be lost if you lose weight so your subconscious piles on the pounds

So until you have looked at all these areas you wont lose weight and it seems that the harder you try the more weight you can put on.  So why not contact me for a session to start your weight loss for 2014 at info@unleashyourfullpotential.co.uk.

My next post is going to be about the subject of karma and weight loss